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July 9, 1955 ~ September 30, 2023 (age 68) 68 Years Old
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SOUTHBURY - Diane Bolder-Lancor, 68, of Southbury, passed away unexpectedly on Saturday, September 30, 2023. She was the loving wife and soulmate of Mark Lancor, with whom she shared 36 beautiful years.
Diane was born on July 9, 1955 in Queens, NY to the late Fred and Cecelia (McLean) Bolder. She was currently employed as President of Dymar, Inc.; a civil engineering and land surveying firm in Southbury started by her and her husband Mark.
Diane and Mark met while he was working in New York. They knew they were in love early on, and Mark always told her that when she was ready, just to say the word and they would marry. One night Diane prepared a candlelight dinner, got down on one knee, and proposed to the love of her life. They married and began their family in Waterbury, CT. When circumstances allowed, Mark and Diane moved their family to Southbury where they built their dream home, a custom Cape/Nantucket style complete with a reading nook and beautiful gardens that were a great source of pride for her.
Diane was an avid reader. She loved books, especially historical themes, and her Kindle was always close by. She loved to travel and explore new places. Some of her favorite memories were made traveling to St. Marten, attending family reunions at Disney World, taking a special trip to Rome for her daughter Amanda’s confirmation, and their much-anticipated yearly vacations to Cape Cod. Diane and Mark loved taking spontaneous day and weekend trips investigating historical inns and landmarks. They would get into the car, start driving, and see where the road would take them. Some of her best moments were spent traveling to unplanned locations, soaking in the scenery and history of the places they visited. She also cherished the special mother-daughter road trips with Amanda. They loved shopping and spending quality time just the two of them.
Diane also found joy in antiquing, scrapbooking, and making ceramics. She was a great entertainer and she loved having her family over for gatherings and meals. A woman of deep faith, she fostered a close relationship with God; even when her illnesses kept her home, she still participated in mass on Sundays via livestreaming service.
Diane had to overcome many obstacles with her health over the years as she struggled with rheumatoid arthritis, a painful and debilitating autoimmune disease. As the disease progressed, she became more and more limited with the things she was able to do. No matter how bad a day she was having, she never complained. She was happy with the life she and Mark built and said she never felt cheated out of anything despite her physical limitations. Diane lived for, and cherished every moment she was given, and never took anything for granted.
Aside from being a dedicated wife, mother, and grandmother, Diane will be remembered as a beloved friend and neighbor. She will be missed greatly by all who had the privilege of knowing her.
Left to cherish Diane’s memory is her beloved husband and best friend Mark Lancor, their daughter Amanda (Jonathan) Andrews, 2 grandchildren, Noah Andrews and Aurora Andrews. She is also survived by her sister Jayne Carey, and brother John Bolder.
In honor of Diane’s wishes, services will be private. In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests that donations in Diane’s name be made to The Arthritis Foundation, 1355 Peachtree St NE Suite 600 Atlanta, GA 30309, or at www.arthritis.org. The Carpino Funeral Home of Southbury is honored to have been entrusted with Diane’s arrangements. To leave a message of remembrance, please visit www.CarpinoCares.com.