Donald "Jake" Metcalf

June 21, 1935 ~ August 22, 2019 (age 84)


SOUTHBURY - Donald Metcalf, 84, passed peacefully with his family by his side on August 22nd, 2019 at Waterbury hospital.

Popularly known as Jake, he was born June 21st 1935 and raised in Southbury, the fifth of seven children of the late Frank and Hazel (Miller) Metcalf. He was predeceased by his six siblings: Eugene, John, Richard, Emily Cassidy, Chester and George (Metcalf). Jake was the founder of the Metcalf Paving Company which he ran with his sons for fifty years, in addition to the Metcalf Fuels Company and Bullet Hill Supply. Always interested in community affairs, he was Secretary of the Southbury Planning Commission during a period of rapid growth in the town’s history which included the development of Heritage Village. He was also a member of the Republican Town Committee, a member and past President of the Southbury Lions Club, and a member of King Solomon’s Lodge #7 in Woodbury Ct.

Jake loved the town of Southbury and except for his last few years in the town of Middlebury, he spent his entire life there. The last one and a half years were spent in the loving care of his son Chris and daughter-in-law Palmira, where he happily enjoyed the comings and goings of his three granddaughters. Family get togethers were a source of great joy to him. Jake is survived by his four children and their spouses: Jonathan and his wife Jennifer of Washington CT, Chris and his wife Palmira of Middlebury CT, Martha and her husband Albert Van Ness of Bronxville NY, and Ben and his wife Jessica of Salisbury CT as well as his former wife Nancy Shea Metcalf of Roxbury CT. In addition, he is survived by thirteen grandchildren, three sister’s-in-law Doris Metcalf, Maureen Metcalf and Irene Metcalf, the former Susan Sundel of Southbury to whom he was also previously married, as well as a number of nieces and nephews.

A memorial service will be held on Wednesday, August 28th at 3:00 pm at Sacred Heart Church, 910 Main Street South in Southbury. Interment will be private and at the convenience of the family. To honor his fondness for the town of Southbury and the people in it, in lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Jake’s name to the Southbury Land Trust (134 Main Street South #68 1/2, Southbury CT 06488), if so desired. For directions, or to leave a message of remembrance, please visit

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Memorial Service
August 28, 2019

3:00 PM
Sacred Heart Church (Southbury)


Southbury Land Trust
134 Main Street South #68 1/2, Southbury CT 06488

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